Something blocking the path between you and the happy existence you hope for?
Here’s one simple tip on overcoming negativity and getting what you really want, courtesy of Daniel Pink, a person whom I’ll be writing a lot more about in coming posts:
Change your “Buts” to “Ands.” When you use the word “but”, you give yourself the OK to give up, to make excuses, and to stop trying. For example-
- “I’d like to find a better job than the one I have now, BUT the economy isn’t great.” Pretty negative, with no way out, right?
Try this instead-
- “I’d like to find a better job than the one I have now, AND the economy isn’t great.”
The “and” sentence requires you to come up with a solution, rather than basking in your own insecurity and excuses. See below-
- “I’d like to find a better job than the one I have now, AND the economy isn’t great sooooooo…. I have to do x, y, and z in order to better my chances for success.”
To find out what X, Y, and Z are, refer to the websites in the post below! Overcoming roadblocks won’t always be this easy, but it’s worth a shot! Oops, I mean AND it’s worth a shot! :)
This is a great application of the “AND” philosophy. I have always read about it in terms of being a conversation starter or as a way to reason with a child, but the idea of using it to overcome personal roadblocks is awesome!